What do you do with a girl like Maria...
Ok, I admit it. I like the sound of music. I like the romantic sappy upbeatedness (yes I know that's not a word) of it all.
So when thinking about to deal with the latest antics of the 15 year old, the Maria song came to mind.
The issue is yet again homework. Mr 15 is in grade 10. He's on the brink of his future or, as in this case, pissing it away because he simply won't do his homework. Today we received in the mail letters from his English and Business teachers. His average for the first sits at 30%, for the latter 50%. He will tell you he has no homework when asked and I guess if he has no intention of doing it, technically he doesn't but the question I have is why? Why would he do this, knowing that he has had to endure much pressure for the past 1.5 years since entering high school for his lack of work ethic? His last report card sucked... why not fix it and get rid of the aggravation of nagging parents? I don't get it...
Nothing seems to work with this kid. We've tried restricting privileges, we've tried paying it forward to show we trust him (well, his dad did cause I don't!), we've tried it all. After todays notes we're going back to restrictive and we're making life very unpleasant for him. No MP3, no gaming system, no tv, no computer (except for school work), no parties at friends houses, friends here only with supervision, in room to do homework for 2 hours per night. No exceptions. We've been lied to, he's officially at risk to pass, we have no choice. I don't need to be this boy's friend. I need to find a way to help him help himself. If he hates me for it now but it works, I'm good with that.
This is causing so much stress for us as a family. Even more so because he is capable, he simply chooses to not use his capability.
So when thinking about to deal with the latest antics of the 15 year old, the Maria song came to mind.
The issue is yet again homework. Mr 15 is in grade 10. He's on the brink of his future or, as in this case, pissing it away because he simply won't do his homework. Today we received in the mail letters from his English and Business teachers. His average for the first sits at 30%, for the latter 50%. He will tell you he has no homework when asked and I guess if he has no intention of doing it, technically he doesn't but the question I have is why? Why would he do this, knowing that he has had to endure much pressure for the past 1.5 years since entering high school for his lack of work ethic? His last report card sucked... why not fix it and get rid of the aggravation of nagging parents? I don't get it...
Nothing seems to work with this kid. We've tried restricting privileges, we've tried paying it forward to show we trust him (well, his dad did cause I don't!), we've tried it all. After todays notes we're going back to restrictive and we're making life very unpleasant for him. No MP3, no gaming system, no tv, no computer (except for school work), no parties at friends houses, friends here only with supervision, in room to do homework for 2 hours per night. No exceptions. We've been lied to, he's officially at risk to pass, we have no choice. I don't need to be this boy's friend. I need to find a way to help him help himself. If he hates me for it now but it works, I'm good with that.
This is causing so much stress for us as a family. Even more so because he is capable, he simply chooses to not use his capability.
posted by Aussieabroad at
8:23 PM
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